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| Title: Internet Dating Do's and Don'ts Author: Amy Schoen Article: Copyright (c) 2007 Heartmind Connection, LLC Here is some Internet dating etiquette to help you along the way with any relationship questions you may have. With so many choices to make in life, it never hurts to receive advice from a relationship coach to help guide you through the various online dating websites. Just as being honest with your resume and cover letter is important when applying for a job through an online job bank, so it is with online dating websites and the profile you post. You want to market yourself to help make your profile stand out from the others. Below are some tips for helping you build an effective profile on the Internet and successful internet dating experiences: 1. About your picture on the online dating website * Do look friendly and approachable. * Do put the best picture possible on your profile. * Don't put just any mug shot of you on your site. * Don't be with other people. Dog, cat and kids are okay! 2. About your profile on the site * Do include what's unique about you and why someone may want to go out with you. * Do describe your values in the body of the profile. What's fulfilling for you? What do you treasure? * Do try to be a descriptive as possible so the reader will experience what you do. (Help them see, smell and hear the beach) Put in a come play with me quality! * Don't put stuff in your profile that is not putting your best foot forward. * Don't lie! Be honest and upbeat. That doesn't mean you have to tell all your faults! 3. Contacting each other * Do go after quality and not quantity! * Do find something that you connect to. A cause or a passion. * Do email back and forth a couple of times to get a sense of a person: their way of thinking and how they express themselves. * Don't be a pen pal! If the person is unwilling to talk on the phone, stop the interchange. * Do talk on the phone to gain further rapport. * Do trust your intuition. If something doesn't feel right, don't pursue any further. * Don't talk on the phone for weeks without making plans to get together. 4. Meeting each other * Do give each other cell phone numbers in case something happens on your way to the meeting. * Do meet in a public place for coffee during the day, if possible * Do "be yourself". * Don't run away if the person doesn't look like what you thought. * Don't give out too much information about yourself before you know the person better. * Some important dating advice for women: Don't expect the man to pay. Be prepared to pay your share. It will be a nice surprise if he does offer to pay the tab. * Do give a nice person a second chance. Chemistry can develop over time. 5. Following up * Do be honest about your level of interest in the person. They may know someone else you'd like to meet. * Do thank the person for a nice time and if someone paid. * Don't say you'll call and not call! * Don't wait a month to call the woman if you liked her. She may have moved onto her next prospect. Whether you've just recently started dating or you're an experienced single, the above dating tips can benefit you as you refine your online dating profile. When in doubt, remember to consult with a close friend or a relationship coach with any relationship questions you may have. Good luck in your search! About the author: Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC, certified professional life coach and dating-relationship expert, helps singles to attract the right romantic relationship into their lives, is the author of "Motivated to Marry™-Now There is a Better Method for Dating and Relationships!" and speaks nationally to groups on dating and relationships. For dating tips for men and women, subscribe to her monthly ezine and teleclasses at: http://www.heartmindconnection.com |
Title: 10 Easy Steps to a Healthy Relationship
Author: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
Are you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived relationships, it's
challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information that helps
to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you're single, married, divorced, or
looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your current or future mate to create
a long-lasting romantic bliss:
1) Always Be Your "True" Self
You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to act or try to
become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation, then
something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to
the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you're being pressured to alter your character to do
things you wouldn't usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will continue to
see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace you just for
who you are--so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.
2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other
A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both look good
arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie Theater, or at
church, can you talk when you're alone? What's going on in your conversations--are they deep and
meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk
about the weather and the plot to the latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening
ear, good advice, and undivided attention? Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you
deeply connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in your
relationship.
3) Don't Ignore, but Explore Your Differences
Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is on the
pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel each other.
It's important that your personalities are compatible. If one views life through rose colored glasses,
while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to make some sort of adjustment to
accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but
they don't mix well in romantic relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and
find some sort of balance. If you can adjust and love each other's personalities, regardless of any
differences, and bring out the best when you're together, then this is a winning combo, and you could
very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.
4) Share Similar Interest and Values
You don't have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences can help
you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at least a few
common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to keep you both
satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports, politics, movies, shopping,
music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn't mean depriving each other of their individual
interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.
5) Discuss Your Spiritual Beliefs Together
If you're not on common ground with your beliefs about who and what God means to each of you, this
will eventually cause a rift in your relationship. Don't try to conceal your true beliefs and hope that it
will all just one day fall in place--it won't. Make sure you talk about your faith honestly and openly with
each other. There's a wise adage that states, "The couple that prays together, stays together."
6) Appreciate Each Other's Unique Body Temple
Let's face it, we're all built differently. We come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and shades. In order to
have a healthy physical and emotional relationship, you must embrace and appreciate each other's
total package. One of the worse things a couple can do to each other is to fantasize or try to fit their
mate into someone else's body image. When you throw away preconceived "ideal body type"
perceptions, you'll enjoy the true worth of your partner. I remember years ago, one of my college
friends, Nicolette, a five-foot-eight-inch, former beauty queen, adamantly refused to date any man
under the six-foot mark. Her preconceived idea of the "ideal match" was "an athletic hunk who would
be paid well for playing ball--footfall, basketball, or baseball would qualify him--as long as he had the
height, the muscles, and the billfold." Well, after many heartbreaks, shallow relationships, and
adopting a completely new outlook on life, she eagerly reports that she has been very happily
married to a five-foot-five-inch dentist for over five years and "has since been blessed with two
wonderful children to complete her healthy marriage." Nicolette would have missed out on the love of
her life had she remained stuck with false perceptions. Don't let this happen to you. Admire,
appreciate, and enjoy your companion's body temple.
7) Talk About "The S-&M Factor" (Sex & Money)
Two of the biggest destroyers of healthy relationships are the misuse, abuse, lack of or over-use of
sex and money (the S & M Factor). Both are very important and very personal in your love life. Yet,
unfortunately, most couples make the mistake of not setting quality time aside early in their
relationship to discuss these two vital components. To put it bluntly, "You've got to know where you're
heading, before you get to the bedding; and know what you're spending before it gets beyond
mending." In deep romantic relationships, there is a world of difference between "having sex" and
"making love," just as there is a major difference between being "involved" and "being in love." The
misuse of sex, just like the misuse of money, causes major turbulence in relationships. These can
be dangerous influences which overwhelm your relationship; or they can be healthy tools for intimacy
and success. It's up to both you and your partner to know what sex and money means to each of you,
and to make sure that you share your beliefs and feelings with each other. Otherwise, both the sex
and money issues can become major conflicts which will destroy even the deepest love.
8) Try to Get Along With Each Other's Friends-n-Families
Although your happiness ultimately depends on how well the two of you get along with each other,
some input from loved ones can be frosting on the cake. Do you have a healthy interaction with each
other's close associates? Make sure you ask some supportive family members and/or dear friends
their opinion about your choice in mate. If the advice is not what you want to hear, examine it closely,
evaluate the source, pray about it, and make up your own mind anyway. Make sure you also meet
your mate's family and closest friends, and discreetly observe their interactions with each other. Look
if there is any dysfunctional family pattern that you need to address and get help with. There is a wise
old saying, "Show me your company, I'll tell you who you are." Chances are, if your partner has a
healthy interaction with loved ones, you will also get the same treatment--and so much more!
9) Stay Away From Negative People
It's important to make a special note here, that although the interactions of relatives and friends can
be a plus in building a healthy relationship, some, unfortunately, can also be a minus. If you face
unhealthy interference and discouragement from loved ones because of their personal insecurities,
don't let them have any influence in your relationship. Both you and your mate must be on the same
page and decide to keep negative people out of your personal love life in order to love and grow
together in a harmonious, healthy relationship.
10) Learn to Laugh Together
This one doesn't need much explanation--if there's no joy, there's very little hope. Laughter keeps
love alive. Find something that you can both get a good hearty laugh from. Here's a little secret that
works wonders: A good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition has a magnetic attraction that
makes people always want to be in your presence. How can that special person resist your
gorgeous smile and sparkling eyes? Go ahead, laugh a bit--have fun and enjoy!
There you have it--the practical, useful and effective steps that will surely enhance your current or
future relationship. You deserve to have an enjoyable, exciting, and loving healthy relationship with
someone who loves you, just for who you are. You are worth it!
About the Author
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of
America's foremost relationship consultants and a bestselling author of ten popular books. For Dr.
Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
Author: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
Are you ready for real love? In this day and age of fast-paced and short-lived relationships, it's
challenging and many times difficult, to find good, solid, effective, and useful, information that helps
to build healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships. Whether you're single, married, divorced, or
looking-to-be-married, these time-tested steps will help you and your current or future mate to create
a long-lasting romantic bliss:
1) Always Be Your "True" Self
You are wonderfully and uniquely made by a loving Creator. If you find that you have to act or try to
become someone you weren't born to be, in order to fulfill someone else's expectation, then
something is seriously wrong. A true love will appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to
the relationship, and vice-versa. If you feel as if you're being pressured to alter your character to do
things you wouldn't usually do (drink, drugs, pre-mature sex, lie) so that the person will continue to
see you, that's a certain sign that things are unhealthy. Your true love will gladly embrace you just for
who you are--so don't be afraid, step out in faith and show your true self.
2) Develop Deep Communication with Each Other
A healthy relationship goes much deeper that a surface affair. Even though you may both look good
arm-in-arm, or standing next to each other, whether at a concert, family reunion, Movie Theater, or at
church, can you talk when you're alone? What's going on in your conversations--are they deep and
meaningful or surface and bland? Do you discuss personal hopes, dreams and goals, or just talk
about the weather and the plot to the latest drama? Can you count on each other to lend a listening
ear, good advice, and undivided attention? Good, honest, and deep conversation will keep you
deeply connected. When in doubt, talk it out. Always keep the lines of communication open in your
relationship.
3) Don't Ignore, but Explore Your Differences
Do your personalities blend well? Is one of you on the optimistic path while the other is on the
pessimistic side of the road? Opposites may initially attract, but eventually they can repel each other.
It's important that your personalities are compatible. If one views life through rose colored glasses,
while the other is always singing-the-blues, then you have to make some sort of adjustment to
accommodate each other. The simple truth is oil and vinegar make an excellent salad dressing, but
they don't mix well in romantic relationships, unless both personalities can explore each other and
find some sort of balance. If you can adjust and love each other's personalities, regardless of any
differences, and bring out the best when you're together, then this is a winning combo, and you could
very well be a dynamic-duo in a life-long healthy relationship.
4) Share Similar Interest and Values
You don't have to have the exact interests. As a matter of fact, having diverse preferences can help
you to share new and exciting things with each other. However, make sure you have at least a few
common interests, so it won't be an ongoing battle over what to do and where to go to keep you both
satisfied. You may have to compromise in some areas like sports, politics, movies, shopping,
music, etc. Keep in mind that compromising doesn't mean depriving each other of their individual
interests but instead it means participating in each other's interests.
5) Discuss Your Spiritual Beliefs Together
If you're not on common ground with your beliefs about who and what God means to each of you, this
will eventually cause a rift in your relationship. Don't try to conceal your true beliefs and hope that it
will all just one day fall in place--it won't. Make sure you talk about your faith honestly and openly with
each other. There's a wise adage that states, "The couple that prays together, stays together."
6) Appreciate Each Other's Unique Body Temple
Let's face it, we're all built differently. We come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and shades. In order to
have a healthy physical and emotional relationship, you must embrace and appreciate each other's
total package. One of the worse things a couple can do to each other is to fantasize or try to fit their
mate into someone else's body image. When you throw away preconceived "ideal body type"
perceptions, you'll enjoy the true worth of your partner. I remember years ago, one of my college
friends, Nicolette, a five-foot-eight-inch, former beauty queen, adamantly refused to date any man
under the six-foot mark. Her preconceived idea of the "ideal match" was "an athletic hunk who would
be paid well for playing ball--footfall, basketball, or baseball would qualify him--as long as he had the
height, the muscles, and the billfold." Well, after many heartbreaks, shallow relationships, and
adopting a completely new outlook on life, she eagerly reports that she has been very happily
married to a five-foot-five-inch dentist for over five years and "has since been blessed with two
wonderful children to complete her healthy marriage." Nicolette would have missed out on the love of
her life had she remained stuck with false perceptions. Don't let this happen to you. Admire,
appreciate, and enjoy your companion's body temple.
7) Talk About "The S-&M Factor" (Sex & Money)
Two of the biggest destroyers of healthy relationships are the misuse, abuse, lack of or over-use of
sex and money (the S & M Factor). Both are very important and very personal in your love life. Yet,
unfortunately, most couples make the mistake of not setting quality time aside early in their
relationship to discuss these two vital components. To put it bluntly, "You've got to know where you're
heading, before you get to the bedding; and know what you're spending before it gets beyond
mending." In deep romantic relationships, there is a world of difference between "having sex" and
"making love," just as there is a major difference between being "involved" and "being in love." The
misuse of sex, just like the misuse of money, causes major turbulence in relationships. These can
be dangerous influences which overwhelm your relationship; or they can be healthy tools for intimacy
and success. It's up to both you and your partner to know what sex and money means to each of you,
and to make sure that you share your beliefs and feelings with each other. Otherwise, both the sex
and money issues can become major conflicts which will destroy even the deepest love.
8) Try to Get Along With Each Other's Friends-n-Families
Although your happiness ultimately depends on how well the two of you get along with each other,
some input from loved ones can be frosting on the cake. Do you have a healthy interaction with each
other's close associates? Make sure you ask some supportive family members and/or dear friends
their opinion about your choice in mate. If the advice is not what you want to hear, examine it closely,
evaluate the source, pray about it, and make up your own mind anyway. Make sure you also meet
your mate's family and closest friends, and discreetly observe their interactions with each other. Look
if there is any dysfunctional family pattern that you need to address and get help with. There is a wise
old saying, "Show me your company, I'll tell you who you are." Chances are, if your partner has a
healthy interaction with loved ones, you will also get the same treatment--and so much more!
9) Stay Away From Negative People
It's important to make a special note here, that although the interactions of relatives and friends can
be a plus in building a healthy relationship, some, unfortunately, can also be a minus. If you face
unhealthy interference and discouragement from loved ones because of their personal insecurities,
don't let them have any influence in your relationship. Both you and your mate must be on the same
page and decide to keep negative people out of your personal love life in order to love and grow
together in a harmonious, healthy relationship.
10) Learn to Laugh Together
This one doesn't need much explanation--if there's no joy, there's very little hope. Laughter keeps
love alive. Find something that you can both get a good hearty laugh from. Here's a little secret that
works wonders: A good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition has a magnetic attraction that
makes people always want to be in your presence. How can that special person resist your
gorgeous smile and sparkling eyes? Go ahead, laugh a bit--have fun and enjoy!
There you have it--the practical, useful and effective steps that will surely enhance your current or
future relationship. You deserve to have an enjoyable, exciting, and loving healthy relationship with
someone who loves you, just for who you are. You are worth it!
About the Author
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of
America's foremost relationship consultants and a bestselling author of ten popular books. For Dr.
Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
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Title - Truth or Dare: How Honest Should You Be In Your Romantic Relationship?
Author: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
To tell or not to tell...Can you afford to be really honest in your relationship?
Have you ever wondered if "honesty is really the best policy?" At some point, couples in every romantic
relationship have "the talk" where they spill the beans on their pasts. It's a chance to come clean and
get all the skeletons out of the closet. But how much information is truly necessary? How much truth
is too much? For instance does a woman have to be completely honest about every romantic
relationship she's been in?
There is a yes and no answer to this issue. Yes, it can be good to honestly share about the major
relationships of your past (usually three to five is average). It can help you to understand each other
more by discussing and analyzing past relationships, like: what brought you together with past loves,
what caused the separations, and anything in between that you feel will not threaten your current
relationship in any way. This will show your mate that you trust him enough to be upfront with him and
that you no longer carry feelings for those you were involved with before him. You could, and should
also talk candidly with your mate about any hurtful relationship experiences you may have
had--abuse, rape, or childhood molestation. Don't hide any of this from him. It wasn't your fault that
someone did such an awful thing to you. Any decent mate will understand and will want to protect you
from ever getting hurt again, and will in fact draw him closer to you.
However, what is sure to tear your romantic relationship apart is if you're not over an ex. The question
is, should you admit this to your man? Absolutely, not! It would be downright hurtful. What you should
do is figure out why you're still carrying feelings for someone who has left. Let it go and move on. Put
your emotions into your current relationship and withdraw your invested emotional energy from the
one who is now yesterday's history.
Another definite no for discussion is if you've had more than ten lovers in the past. For instance, if you
were once a promiscuous woman, who has had enough male lovers to place one in each of the fifty
States, leave that information out of your current relationship. I've counseled enough couples to
professionally tell you that no matter how much the man may say he's open to your past, he wants to
feel as if he's the first to have you. Even though he knows that you were not a virgin when he met you,
he wants to know that you're his personal and private "rejuvenated or born-again virgin." No man
wants to know that his prize (you) have been sampled by an extended list of "Tom, Dick, Harry, Larry,
and Barry."
It is ancient Biblical wisdom, that there is a time and a season for everything: "a time to speak and a
time to withhold from speaking." Honesty is truly the best policy, but be smart with your heart. To sum
it up in a nutshell, "there's a time for the past to be told, and a time for you to withhold."
About the Author
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one
of America's foremost relationship consultants and an award-winning, bestselling author of ten
popular books. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
Author: Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
To tell or not to tell...Can you afford to be really honest in your relationship?
Have you ever wondered if "honesty is really the best policy?" At some point, couples in every romantic
relationship have "the talk" where they spill the beans on their pasts. It's a chance to come clean and
get all the skeletons out of the closet. But how much information is truly necessary? How much truth
is too much? For instance does a woman have to be completely honest about every romantic
relationship she's been in?
There is a yes and no answer to this issue. Yes, it can be good to honestly share about the major
relationships of your past (usually three to five is average). It can help you to understand each other
more by discussing and analyzing past relationships, like: what brought you together with past loves,
what caused the separations, and anything in between that you feel will not threaten your current
relationship in any way. This will show your mate that you trust him enough to be upfront with him and
that you no longer carry feelings for those you were involved with before him. You could, and should
also talk candidly with your mate about any hurtful relationship experiences you may have
had--abuse, rape, or childhood molestation. Don't hide any of this from him. It wasn't your fault that
someone did such an awful thing to you. Any decent mate will understand and will want to protect you
from ever getting hurt again, and will in fact draw him closer to you.
However, what is sure to tear your romantic relationship apart is if you're not over an ex. The question
is, should you admit this to your man? Absolutely, not! It would be downright hurtful. What you should
do is figure out why you're still carrying feelings for someone who has left. Let it go and move on. Put
your emotions into your current relationship and withdraw your invested emotional energy from the
one who is now yesterday's history.
Another definite no for discussion is if you've had more than ten lovers in the past. For instance, if you
were once a promiscuous woman, who has had enough male lovers to place one in each of the fifty
States, leave that information out of your current relationship. I've counseled enough couples to
professionally tell you that no matter how much the man may say he's open to your past, he wants to
feel as if he's the first to have you. Even though he knows that you were not a virgin when he met you,
he wants to know that you're his personal and private "rejuvenated or born-again virgin." No man
wants to know that his prize (you) have been sampled by an extended list of "Tom, Dick, Harry, Larry,
and Barry."
It is ancient Biblical wisdom, that there is a time and a season for everything: "a time to speak and a
time to withhold from speaking." Honesty is truly the best policy, but be smart with your heart. To sum
it up in a nutshell, "there's a time for the past to be told, and a time for you to withhold."
About the Author
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air staff psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one
of America's foremost relationship consultants and an award-winning, bestselling author of ten
popular books. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
Title: 10 Qualities to Look for in a Long-term Motivated to Marry™
Partner
Author: Amy Schoen
Article:
Copyright (c) 2007 Heartmind Connection, LLC
Do you know what kind of person would make you happy? What
qualities would you want someone you would want to marry have?
As human beings, we all respond to certain gestures and
behaviors positively. This dating advice for women and men is to
describe which qualities you need to have on your radar screen
when you are searching for a partner with whom you can have long
term bliss. Keep in mind the following relationship issues as
you evaluate someone as a Motivated to Marry™ Partner.
1. Offers you genuine friendship Everyone wants someone who can
be their best friend through thick and thin. We want someone
with whom we can share our deepest thoughts as well as with
whom
we can have fun with.
2. Kind and Compassionate What kind of heart does he or she
have? Does he take in stray animals or does she volunteer to
help the sick? And how forgiving is his or her nature? Is she
kind to you and empathize with you when you've had a bad day?
3. Encouraging and Supportive Our hope is that our partner
becomes our greatest fan. Some dating tips for men include that
you cheer her on during difficult times, and don't forget to
tell her you believe in her. She supports you by taking care of
the kids at night while you go back to school.
4. A Sense of Being Understood Being seen and being known is the
biggest gift you can give someone. Actually hearing them and
acknowledging that you've heard them is very powerful. The key
relationship issue is acceptance of who we are is what we all
strive for.
5. Being Appreciative The ability to recognize when someone has
gone out of your way or done something nice for you is a lost
art. Just saying these simple words, "I appreciate what you have
done" just makes someone's day. One can never express too much
appreciation! This is also important dating advice for women.
6. Ability to be Intimate Being willing to show your true self
to another does take guts and trust. Making yourself vulnerable
to another is not an everyday occurrence. Allowing someone to
get to know you and love you just the way you are, for better or
worse is not for the faint-hearted.
7. Respectful Being able to remain respectful of another
although you may not agree with the person does take a lot of
class. It's even harder to treat someone with respect when you
are under stress. Always treat each other like delicate China
where you can break your strong bond with the slip of a hurtful
tongue. Nasty remarks and put downs are damaging to any
relationship.
8. Open and willing to work on enhancing the relationship Open
and honest communication is the key to any relationship. As part
of a couple, you need to be willing to listen to constructive
comments and requests from your partner. It's important to hear
your partner's side and visa versa. If you reach a deadlock
without any viable solutions, be willing to seek help from an
impartial third party to resolve major relationship issues.
9. Trustworthy Trust is built over time and many positive
encounters with someone. Does this person follow up when he/she
says they will? Is this someone you have found you can count on?
Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
10. Thinks and acts in a "we" manner, not a "me" manner Does
your potential partner think of how his or her actions will
affect you? Are your thoughts and feelings taken into
consideration? Is there a goal of compromise for the sake of the
relationship? A relationship cannot survive on "me" alone!
These are the 10 qualities you would want to look for in a
Motivated to Marry™ mate. Only you know which qualities are more
important to you and must be present in a person to be happy.
Good luck with your search. He or she is out there waiting for
you!
About the author:
Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC, certified professional life coach and
dating-relationship expert, helps singles to attract the right
romantic relationship into their lives, is the author of
"Motivated to Marry™-Now There is a Better Method for Dating and
Relationships!" and speaks nationally to groups on dating and
relationships. For dating tips for men and women, subscribe to
her monthly ezine and teleclasses at:
http://www.heartmindconnection.com
Partner
Author: Amy Schoen
Article:
Copyright (c) 2007 Heartmind Connection, LLC
Do you know what kind of person would make you happy? What
qualities would you want someone you would want to marry have?
As human beings, we all respond to certain gestures and
behaviors positively. This dating advice for women and men is to
describe which qualities you need to have on your radar screen
when you are searching for a partner with whom you can have long
term bliss. Keep in mind the following relationship issues as
you evaluate someone as a Motivated to Marry™ Partner.
1. Offers you genuine friendship Everyone wants someone who can
be their best friend through thick and thin. We want someone
with whom we can share our deepest thoughts as well as with
whom
we can have fun with.
2. Kind and Compassionate What kind of heart does he or she
have? Does he take in stray animals or does she volunteer to
help the sick? And how forgiving is his or her nature? Is she
kind to you and empathize with you when you've had a bad day?
3. Encouraging and Supportive Our hope is that our partner
becomes our greatest fan. Some dating tips for men include that
you cheer her on during difficult times, and don't forget to
tell her you believe in her. She supports you by taking care of
the kids at night while you go back to school.
4. A Sense of Being Understood Being seen and being known is the
biggest gift you can give someone. Actually hearing them and
acknowledging that you've heard them is very powerful. The key
relationship issue is acceptance of who we are is what we all
strive for.
5. Being Appreciative The ability to recognize when someone has
gone out of your way or done something nice for you is a lost
art. Just saying these simple words, "I appreciate what you have
done" just makes someone's day. One can never express too much
appreciation! This is also important dating advice for women.
6. Ability to be Intimate Being willing to show your true self
to another does take guts and trust. Making yourself vulnerable
to another is not an everyday occurrence. Allowing someone to
get to know you and love you just the way you are, for better or
worse is not for the faint-hearted.
7. Respectful Being able to remain respectful of another
although you may not agree with the person does take a lot of
class. It's even harder to treat someone with respect when you
are under stress. Always treat each other like delicate China
where you can break your strong bond with the slip of a hurtful
tongue. Nasty remarks and put downs are damaging to any
relationship.
8. Open and willing to work on enhancing the relationship Open
and honest communication is the key to any relationship. As part
of a couple, you need to be willing to listen to constructive
comments and requests from your partner. It's important to hear
your partner's side and visa versa. If you reach a deadlock
without any viable solutions, be willing to seek help from an
impartial third party to resolve major relationship issues.
9. Trustworthy Trust is built over time and many positive
encounters with someone. Does this person follow up when he/she
says they will? Is this someone you have found you can count on?
Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
10. Thinks and acts in a "we" manner, not a "me" manner Does
your potential partner think of how his or her actions will
affect you? Are your thoughts and feelings taken into
consideration? Is there a goal of compromise for the sake of the
relationship? A relationship cannot survive on "me" alone!
These are the 10 qualities you would want to look for in a
Motivated to Marry™ mate. Only you know which qualities are more
important to you and must be present in a person to be happy.
Good luck with your search. He or she is out there waiting for
you!
About the author:
Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC, certified professional life coach and
dating-relationship expert, helps singles to attract the right
romantic relationship into their lives, is the author of
"Motivated to Marry™-Now There is a Better Method for Dating and
Relationships!" and speaks nationally to groups on dating and
relationships. For dating tips for men and women, subscribe to
her monthly ezine and teleclasses at:
http://www.heartmindconnection.com
Title: Overcoming Your Dating Fears in Two Simple Steps
Author: Neal Talbot
Article:
Fear has infected the dating world. It has poisoned the minds of
millions of single men and women. It has them walking scared.
Afraid to approach. Afraid to interact. Afraid to take action.
The fear of rejection is slowly overwhelming the dating world.
Singles have become so terrified of someone not returning their
interest, they are no longer interacting with other singles.
For many singles, the fear of rejection is so great, they
convince themselves it's not worth it. That the potential damage
to their ego is too severe. That the risks of being vulnerable
outweigh any and all positives.
So they don't approach. They don't interact. They tell
themselves an unsuccessful interaction will have everyone
laughing at them. Or make them look like a loser. Or lessen
their value as a human being.
These beliefs couldn't be any further from the truth. Their fear
couldn't be any more misguided. The only thing singles should
fear is arriving home and kicking themselves for not approaching
someone they were interested in.
Meeting new singles isn't risky. It's actually a no-lose
proposition. If the interaction goes well, you might land a date
with an attractive single. If not, you're no worse off than if
you never approached.
No one is going to laugh at you if your interaction doesn't go
well. It won't make you look like a loser. The only thing
interacting with other attractive singles will do is make you
look cool, calm and confident.
Living in fear is no way to live. And it's no way to date. If
you wait for attractive singles to fall effortlessly into your
lap, you might be waiting for some time. You might have to wait
for years.
In the meantime, you'll become too reliant on your social
circle. You won't date much. And this lack of dating activity
will put too much pressure on you when you finally do land a
date.
It's time singles put the fear of rejection behind them. It's
time they started toughening up their fragile egos. It's time
they start to flex their social muscles. It's time they fought
their fear with facts.
To do this, singles have to drill three important facts into
their brain: You have nothing to lose by approaching other
singles. If someone isn't interested in an interaction, it
doesn't say anything about who you are. And the only thing you
should fear is going home and kicking yourself for not
approaching someone who interested you.
Singles have to realize the fear of rejection has no place in
dating and it can be overcome in two simple steps.
Overcoming the fear of rejection can be done in two steps. The
first step is improving your attraction and interaction skills.
This involves improving your body language, approach and
conversation skills. The second step is getting some experience
interacting with new singles.
Improving personal attraction and interaction skills provides
singles with a huge boost of self-confidence. If they feel they
know how to strut their stuff and impress anyone, they are going
to dramatically reduce their approach anxiety. Which is key
because approach anxiety is the most damaging dating aspect of
the fear of rejection.
Without confidence in your attraction and interaction skills -
approach anxiety can be devastating. Just the thought of
approaching someone new - especially if they're attractive - is
daunting. Without that personal confidence, approach anxiety can
overcome singles.
They begin to sweat. Nervous butterflies fill their stomach.
Their hands start shaking. Every worst case scenario runs
through their mind. Fear suddenly plants their feet firmly to
the floor. And they give up before they've even begun.
But singles that have confidence in their attraction and
interaction skills have far less approach anxiety. They have an
icebreaker in mind before they approach, they approach from the
correct angles, they know how to immediately win someone over,
and they know how to have amazing conversations.
These skills lessen one's anxiety with every step. Every
approach. Every conversation. Knowledge is power, and it's no
different in the dating world. If you know what you're doing,
and have faith in your abilities, you dramatically lower your
anxiety.
The second step to dismantling the fear of rejection is getting
some experience interacting with new singles. Approach and
interact with everyone around you, even if it's just for a
couple of minutes. Search out strangers - especially attractive
strangers - and engage them in conversation.
These interactions do two things. The first is, they allow
singles to hone and perfect their attraction and interaction
skills. The second is, it teaches singles that most of the time
they approach someone, they are going to be welcomed - not
rejected. And once they realize this, they replace their fear of
rejection with the excitement of meeting someone new. Most
singles are shocked that the majority of their interactions are
successful. That they are welcomed into even large groups. But
it's no surprise. It's exciting to meet new people. To talk
about new things. Especially with someone confident enough to
approach strangers.
After as little as a dozen successful interactions, singles
often find their fear of rejection is nearly gone. Their
confidence is sky-high and experience hardened. They no longer
care if someone isn't interested in them, because they know
there are lots more singles who are.
People who've take these two simple steps and overcome their
fear, often want to kick themselves for being scared and missing
opportunities in the past. But they're usually too busy meeting
and mingling with new people.
So don't let the fear of rejection hold you back. Fight it with
fact. Fight it with self-confidence. Fight it with experience.
It's time you throw caution to the wind and start fearlessly
interacting with other attractive singles. It's time you start
living the life you deserve. A life full of amazing dates and
unforgettable interactions.
For more great dating advice go to <a
href="http://www.allstardatingtips.com">www.allstardatingtips.com
</a>.
About the author:
Neal Talbot is the President of Attraction All-Stars Enterprises
Ltd. The former reporter - turned dating coach - created
AllStarDatingTips.com to help improve the dating lives of
millions of single men and women all around the globe. Talbot is
also the author of the best-selling e-book All-Star Dating &
Attraction.
Author: Neal Talbot
Article:
Fear has infected the dating world. It has poisoned the minds of
millions of single men and women. It has them walking scared.
Afraid to approach. Afraid to interact. Afraid to take action.
The fear of rejection is slowly overwhelming the dating world.
Singles have become so terrified of someone not returning their
interest, they are no longer interacting with other singles.
For many singles, the fear of rejection is so great, they
convince themselves it's not worth it. That the potential damage
to their ego is too severe. That the risks of being vulnerable
outweigh any and all positives.
So they don't approach. They don't interact. They tell
themselves an unsuccessful interaction will have everyone
laughing at them. Or make them look like a loser. Or lessen
their value as a human being.
These beliefs couldn't be any further from the truth. Their fear
couldn't be any more misguided. The only thing singles should
fear is arriving home and kicking themselves for not approaching
someone they were interested in.
Meeting new singles isn't risky. It's actually a no-lose
proposition. If the interaction goes well, you might land a date
with an attractive single. If not, you're no worse off than if
you never approached.
No one is going to laugh at you if your interaction doesn't go
well. It won't make you look like a loser. The only thing
interacting with other attractive singles will do is make you
look cool, calm and confident.
Living in fear is no way to live. And it's no way to date. If
you wait for attractive singles to fall effortlessly into your
lap, you might be waiting for some time. You might have to wait
for years.
In the meantime, you'll become too reliant on your social
circle. You won't date much. And this lack of dating activity
will put too much pressure on you when you finally do land a
date.
It's time singles put the fear of rejection behind them. It's
time they started toughening up their fragile egos. It's time
they start to flex their social muscles. It's time they fought
their fear with facts.
To do this, singles have to drill three important facts into
their brain: You have nothing to lose by approaching other
singles. If someone isn't interested in an interaction, it
doesn't say anything about who you are. And the only thing you
should fear is going home and kicking yourself for not
approaching someone who interested you.
Singles have to realize the fear of rejection has no place in
dating and it can be overcome in two simple steps.
Overcoming the fear of rejection can be done in two steps. The
first step is improving your attraction and interaction skills.
This involves improving your body language, approach and
conversation skills. The second step is getting some experience
interacting with new singles.
Improving personal attraction and interaction skills provides
singles with a huge boost of self-confidence. If they feel they
know how to strut their stuff and impress anyone, they are going
to dramatically reduce their approach anxiety. Which is key
because approach anxiety is the most damaging dating aspect of
the fear of rejection.
Without confidence in your attraction and interaction skills -
approach anxiety can be devastating. Just the thought of
approaching someone new - especially if they're attractive - is
daunting. Without that personal confidence, approach anxiety can
overcome singles.
They begin to sweat. Nervous butterflies fill their stomach.
Their hands start shaking. Every worst case scenario runs
through their mind. Fear suddenly plants their feet firmly to
the floor. And they give up before they've even begun.
But singles that have confidence in their attraction and
interaction skills have far less approach anxiety. They have an
icebreaker in mind before they approach, they approach from the
correct angles, they know how to immediately win someone over,
and they know how to have amazing conversations.
These skills lessen one's anxiety with every step. Every
approach. Every conversation. Knowledge is power, and it's no
different in the dating world. If you know what you're doing,
and have faith in your abilities, you dramatically lower your
anxiety.
The second step to dismantling the fear of rejection is getting
some experience interacting with new singles. Approach and
interact with everyone around you, even if it's just for a
couple of minutes. Search out strangers - especially attractive
strangers - and engage them in conversation.
These interactions do two things. The first is, they allow
singles to hone and perfect their attraction and interaction
skills. The second is, it teaches singles that most of the time
they approach someone, they are going to be welcomed - not
rejected. And once they realize this, they replace their fear of
rejection with the excitement of meeting someone new. Most
singles are shocked that the majority of their interactions are
successful. That they are welcomed into even large groups. But
it's no surprise. It's exciting to meet new people. To talk
about new things. Especially with someone confident enough to
approach strangers.
After as little as a dozen successful interactions, singles
often find their fear of rejection is nearly gone. Their
confidence is sky-high and experience hardened. They no longer
care if someone isn't interested in them, because they know
there are lots more singles who are.
People who've take these two simple steps and overcome their
fear, often want to kick themselves for being scared and missing
opportunities in the past. But they're usually too busy meeting
and mingling with new people.
So don't let the fear of rejection hold you back. Fight it with
fact. Fight it with self-confidence. Fight it with experience.
It's time you throw caution to the wind and start fearlessly
interacting with other attractive singles. It's time you start
living the life you deserve. A life full of amazing dates and
unforgettable interactions.
For more great dating advice go to <a
href="http://www.allstardatingtips.com">www.allstardatingtips.com
</a>.
About the author:
Neal Talbot is the President of Attraction All-Stars Enterprises
Ltd. The former reporter - turned dating coach - created
AllStarDatingTips.com to help improve the dating lives of
millions of single men and women all around the globe. Talbot is
also the author of the best-selling e-book All-Star Dating &
Attraction.
Title: 5 Biggest Mistakes That Single Men Make
Author: gpower2
Article:
<a href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>5
Biggest Mistakes That Single Men Make</b></a> - A Womans
Perspective
Dating can be awkward, and everyone makes mistakes. Of course,
there are some instances in which the person you like doesn't
follow up and it has nothing to do with you (e.g,. an ex comes
back into her life...don't you love that?). But often it's
simple things we do (or don't do) that prevent us from making a
connection.
Here are the <a
href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>5 Biggest
Mistakes That Single Men Make</b></a> when on the prowl.
1. <b>Men Show Off or Try to Impress Too Much</b>. Don't offer
your resume, your earning potential, and tell us how you'll
change our lives the first time we meet you. Instead of talking
about yourself the whole night, ask questions! Don't come on too
strong right away. Let us figure out if we want to be with you,
instead of telling us we do.
2. <b>Men Don't Listen to Us When We're Talking</b>. We notice
if you stop listening to us, if you ask us questions we just
answered, or if you keep interrupting us when we're opening up.
This drives most women nuts! Unless you're on call, don't check
your Blackberry at dinner and don't check out other women. Focus
on the woman across the table from you and listen to what she
has to say.
3. <b>Men Aren't Chivalrous</b>. The lines here are not always
clear. We want you to treat us like equals, but we also want you
to treat us like women. It's nice when a man picks up the tab or
makes sure his date gets home safely. It may be old-fashioned,
but a number of women report that dating a gentleman matters.
4. <b>Men Don't Take Initiative</b>. Men, how many times have
you caught yourself saying, "I don't know" or "Whatever you'd
like" when planning a date? If you've asked a woman out, a
better approach is to give a few fun and creative date options
and ask her to pick one. Initiative doesn't mean ordering for a
woman at a restaurant or ordering a woman around! It does mean
confidently approaching your date with ideas, passion and
interest. It also means you can be flirty and forward, letting
her know how amazing you think she looks or how much you want to
kiss her.
5. <b>Men Say They'll Call and Then Don't</b>. It's no surprise
that acting like you're going to follow up when you're not
bothers most women (and never underestimate the way word travels
about you not keeping your word!). Better to end a date by
saying, "It was nice to meet you. Have a good night." Don't act
like you're going to follow up if you're not. If you've gone out
more than a few times, be honest that while you enjoy your
date's company, you don't feel a romantic connection. Just
remember, communication is usually the way to go with a woman.
There are always exceptions, so I don't believe there are
absolute rights and wrongs in dating -- but there are
strategies. If you follow these simple steps, you may avoid the
<a href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>5
biggest mistakes that single men make</b></a> and you'll be
ahead in the dating game. At least you'll get an 'A' for effort.
About the author:
Visit <a
href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>this
site</b></a> and get FREE tips about how you can further enhance
your relationship.
Author: gpower2
Article:
<a href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>5
Biggest Mistakes That Single Men Make</b></a> - A Womans
Perspective
Dating can be awkward, and everyone makes mistakes. Of course,
there are some instances in which the person you like doesn't
follow up and it has nothing to do with you (e.g,. an ex comes
back into her life...don't you love that?). But often it's
simple things we do (or don't do) that prevent us from making a
connection.
Here are the <a
href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>5 Biggest
Mistakes That Single Men Make</b></a> when on the prowl.
1. <b>Men Show Off or Try to Impress Too Much</b>. Don't offer
your resume, your earning potential, and tell us how you'll
change our lives the first time we meet you. Instead of talking
about yourself the whole night, ask questions! Don't come on too
strong right away. Let us figure out if we want to be with you,
instead of telling us we do.
2. <b>Men Don't Listen to Us When We're Talking</b>. We notice
if you stop listening to us, if you ask us questions we just
answered, or if you keep interrupting us when we're opening up.
This drives most women nuts! Unless you're on call, don't check
your Blackberry at dinner and don't check out other women. Focus
on the woman across the table from you and listen to what she
has to say.
3. <b>Men Aren't Chivalrous</b>. The lines here are not always
clear. We want you to treat us like equals, but we also want you
to treat us like women. It's nice when a man picks up the tab or
makes sure his date gets home safely. It may be old-fashioned,
but a number of women report that dating a gentleman matters.
4. <b>Men Don't Take Initiative</b>. Men, how many times have
you caught yourself saying, "I don't know" or "Whatever you'd
like" when planning a date? If you've asked a woman out, a
better approach is to give a few fun and creative date options
and ask her to pick one. Initiative doesn't mean ordering for a
woman at a restaurant or ordering a woman around! It does mean
confidently approaching your date with ideas, passion and
interest. It also means you can be flirty and forward, letting
her know how amazing you think she looks or how much you want to
kiss her.
5. <b>Men Say They'll Call and Then Don't</b>. It's no surprise
that acting like you're going to follow up when you're not
bothers most women (and never underestimate the way word travels
about you not keeping your word!). Better to end a date by
saying, "It was nice to meet you. Have a good night." Don't act
like you're going to follow up if you're not. If you've gone out
more than a few times, be honest that while you enjoy your
date's company, you don't feel a romantic connection. Just
remember, communication is usually the way to go with a woman.
There are always exceptions, so I don't believe there are
absolute rights and wrongs in dating -- but there are
strategies. If you follow these simple steps, you may avoid the
<a href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>5
biggest mistakes that single men make</b></a> and you'll be
ahead in the dating game. At least you'll get an 'A' for effort.
About the author:
Visit <a
href="http://gpower2.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/"><b>this
site</b></a> and get FREE tips about how you can further enhance
your relationship.
What Women Want
Copyright (C) 2007 Elena Solomon, author of 12 Simple Rules
A while ago, a guy wrote to me saying that if he knew what women wanted, he would write a book
and retire rich.
What women want was a secret to a man for a long, LONG time.
Mel Gibson and his famous movie “What Women Want” haven’t quite answered this question. In
fact, this is exactly the answer to the question in his own words:
“After about 20 years of marriage, I'm finally starting to scratch the surface of what women want. And
I think the answer lies somewhere between conversation and chocolate.”
I don’t know about you but this answer doesn’t quite cut it for me. If I were a guy, I would need
something more specific to succeed with women!
Fortunately for you, after reading this article, it will no longer be a mystery. Because I am going to tell
you EXACTLY what women want.
(I was thinking about writing a book and retiring rich… but decided to give this secret away for free
for the good of the humanity.)
OK, let’s get to our nitty-gritty, shall we?
Generally, women want many things, including hot gossip and Italian shoes, but as far as men-
women relationships are concerned, this is the one and the only women’s request:
They want strong, powerful, overwhelming EMOTIONS.
They want to be swept off their feet.
If you manage to deliver THAT, all other women’s desires and requirements become irrelevant:
money, looks, height, education, status, or anything else men habitually put on the list of desired
attributes - NONE of this really matters.
YES! A woman can fall hopelessly in love with a man who isn’t good looking, doesn’t have money,
doesn’t have education, who is short, bald and old, as long as he manages to deliver these
powerful EMOTIONS that women are craving.
Why?
Because her requirements for money and status come from intellectual, or CONSCIOUS part of the
brain - and the emotion of love, or attraction, comes from emotional, or SUBCONSCIOUS part of the
brain.
In other words, she cannot help it.
She cannot decide NOT to be in love.
(Have you ever tried it yourself, to stop loving the person who you know isn’t good for you and who
only brings you suffering and problems? How successful were these attempts?)
She doesn’t ‘step into’ love - she ‘falls into’ it.
It is absolutely imperative for you as a man to evoke strong emotions in a woman in order for her to
fall in love with you.
And they don’t have to be positive emotions only - vice versa, an emotional roller coaster works the
best. In other words, hate is NOT the opposite of love - it’s its associate and partner. Indifference is
the opposite of love. It is easier for you to make a woman that hates you, to fall in love with you, than
a woman who has no feelings whatsoever towards you.
What most men do not realize is that a woman does not have to LIKE you, in order to fall in LOVE
with you. Yes, you’ve read it right: she may NOT like you but still fall in love with you. Quite often, the
reason why she doesn’t like you is the very reason why she falls in love with you.
Confused?
You should be.
What I realized is that although we LIKE people that are ‘like us’, we LOVE people that have
something that we DON’T HAVE. We are powerfully attracted to people that are DISTINCTIVELY
DIFFERENT from us. The MORE different they are, the STRONGER is our attraction to them.
Since they are different from us, which means they aren’t ‘like us’, chances are this difference is
something that we don’t actually like.
The powerful emotion of attraction that overrides all women’s requirements to a potential partner
and makes her do the things she would not tell her mother about, is only evoked in a female by a
DOMINANT MALE. In other words, the male she cannot control.
Women have in-built mechanism that reacts on the dominant male by making them weak at their
knees and feeling swept off their feet - experiencing these all-powerful EMOTIONS they are after.
They respond to a predetermined pattern of behavior by falling in love with the person who exhibits
this behavior. And this pattern can be learned - this is what is commonly known as ‘dating skills’.
Do you want to drive women crazy about you - to the extent they disregard your looks, finances and
social status?
It is possible and attainable.
And the best thing, you CAN do it.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading ebook
distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY how you can evoke
strong emotions in women and make them fall in love with you - regardless of your looks, money
and status.
Get the UNFAIR ADVANTAGE in the battle of sexes!
http://www.12SimpleRules.com/
Copyright (C) 2007 Elena Solomon, author of 12 Simple Rules
A while ago, a guy wrote to me saying that if he knew what women wanted, he would write a book
and retire rich.
What women want was a secret to a man for a long, LONG time.
Mel Gibson and his famous movie “What Women Want” haven’t quite answered this question. In
fact, this is exactly the answer to the question in his own words:
“After about 20 years of marriage, I'm finally starting to scratch the surface of what women want. And
I think the answer lies somewhere between conversation and chocolate.”
I don’t know about you but this answer doesn’t quite cut it for me. If I were a guy, I would need
something more specific to succeed with women!
Fortunately for you, after reading this article, it will no longer be a mystery. Because I am going to tell
you EXACTLY what women want.
(I was thinking about writing a book and retiring rich… but decided to give this secret away for free
for the good of the humanity.)
OK, let’s get to our nitty-gritty, shall we?
Generally, women want many things, including hot gossip and Italian shoes, but as far as men-
women relationships are concerned, this is the one and the only women’s request:
They want strong, powerful, overwhelming EMOTIONS.
They want to be swept off their feet.
If you manage to deliver THAT, all other women’s desires and requirements become irrelevant:
money, looks, height, education, status, or anything else men habitually put on the list of desired
attributes - NONE of this really matters.
YES! A woman can fall hopelessly in love with a man who isn’t good looking, doesn’t have money,
doesn’t have education, who is short, bald and old, as long as he manages to deliver these
powerful EMOTIONS that women are craving.
Why?
Because her requirements for money and status come from intellectual, or CONSCIOUS part of the
brain - and the emotion of love, or attraction, comes from emotional, or SUBCONSCIOUS part of the
brain.
In other words, she cannot help it.
She cannot decide NOT to be in love.
(Have you ever tried it yourself, to stop loving the person who you know isn’t good for you and who
only brings you suffering and problems? How successful were these attempts?)
She doesn’t ‘step into’ love - she ‘falls into’ it.
It is absolutely imperative for you as a man to evoke strong emotions in a woman in order for her to
fall in love with you.
And they don’t have to be positive emotions only - vice versa, an emotional roller coaster works the
best. In other words, hate is NOT the opposite of love - it’s its associate and partner. Indifference is
the opposite of love. It is easier for you to make a woman that hates you, to fall in love with you, than
a woman who has no feelings whatsoever towards you.
What most men do not realize is that a woman does not have to LIKE you, in order to fall in LOVE
with you. Yes, you’ve read it right: she may NOT like you but still fall in love with you. Quite often, the
reason why she doesn’t like you is the very reason why she falls in love with you.
Confused?
You should be.
What I realized is that although we LIKE people that are ‘like us’, we LOVE people that have
something that we DON’T HAVE. We are powerfully attracted to people that are DISTINCTIVELY
DIFFERENT from us. The MORE different they are, the STRONGER is our attraction to them.
Since they are different from us, which means they aren’t ‘like us’, chances are this difference is
something that we don’t actually like.
The powerful emotion of attraction that overrides all women’s requirements to a potential partner
and makes her do the things she would not tell her mother about, is only evoked in a female by a
DOMINANT MALE. In other words, the male she cannot control.
Women have in-built mechanism that reacts on the dominant male by making them weak at their
knees and feeling swept off their feet - experiencing these all-powerful EMOTIONS they are after.
They respond to a predetermined pattern of behavior by falling in love with the person who exhibits
this behavior. And this pattern can be learned - this is what is commonly known as ‘dating skills’.
Do you want to drive women crazy about you - to the extent they disregard your looks, finances and
social status?
It is possible and attainable.
And the best thing, you CAN do it.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Elena Solomon is a dating coach.
Her latest book "12 Simple Rules" became #1 'Love & Romance' bestseller in the leading ebook
distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY how you can evoke
strong emotions in women and make them fall in love with you - regardless of your looks, money
and status.
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